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3 Tips for Saying a No Confidently

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A scene from the movie 27 Dresses


For those who have watched the movie, you know why I have inserted the above pic and for those who have not...

 In Short...

 Well the guy, he is just a guy who work for the magazine world covering weddings and the girl, well she is the elder sis' and also a part-time bridesmaid to many brides in the city and also someone who cannot use the word NO! in her life, no matter what... The scene is somewhat like this - the girl find out that her younger sis' (Tess) is gonna get married wearing her moms' wedding dress (which the elder sis' wanted) and marrying the man (apparently, which the elder sis' wanted too) and now she also had to become her lil sis' BRIDESMAID!

 Ok back to the above scene...

Jane: My lil' sis is getting married...
Kevin: Ah! Before you?
Jane: Thats not what I am upset about...
Kevin: Then what are you upset about?
Jane: You don't know Tess, she is going to want me to do everything. I am not just goin to be her maid of honor, I am going to be taking care of EVERYTHING!!!
Kevin: So why don't you say NO!
Jane: What?!!!
Kevin: Say No...
Kevin: You have said No to people before, right?
Jane: Yes ofcourse, many many times when the situation.... NEVER! NOT ONCE..
Kevin: But you want to say NO..
Jane: But I can't... its MY SISTER...
Kevin: But you can say NO because its your sister
Kevin: Ok, we are going to practice saying No..
Kevin: Alright Jane, give me 50 bucks...
Jane: No!
Kevin: Jane its 50 bucks, I'll pay you back...
Jane: No!
Kevin: (holding her hands), Jane, I need you to give me 50 bucks..
Jane: (almost convinced)... No?!!
Kevin: Well, not bad!
Kevin: Can I have your drink?
Jane: Sure
Jane: No!!!!
Kevin: You were doing so well...
Well, this post is about saying NO when you want to or need to and being okay about it. We tend to say a NO and then feel the urge to give excuses and justifications in paragraphs which is uncalled for. 

 Here to the tips:

 Tip No. 1: Say a No, only when you mean it

 If there is something that by saying a YES would mean waste of your time, putting someone before you way too often, resulting in you being unhappy, then this is the time to bring out the NO word.

 Tip No. 2: Say a No, without too many explanations

 Some people say a confident NO, but then only to back it up with unnecessary jabbering of explanations and justifications. You said a NO, you meant a NO, the person/situation who received your NO, probably deserves a reason, You say the reason if you wish to and that's it! End of the chapter! You need not go on and on explaining why you said a NO or feel guilty about it.

 Tips No. 3: Say a No, don't expect everyone to get it

 Sometimes, the very usage of the word NO can tick people off. They don't expect you to say a NO, people try to convince you to say a YES, if you are convinced, that's ok! But if not, don't expect anyone to get it. Since you are saying a NO, many a times people do not get the reason behind it and are upset with you, depending upon who "they" are in your life, you do owe them a reason (for humanity sake) but its okay if they do not get it... you do not have to change your decision just because someone doesn't get it right away.

 My take:

 Say a No, sweetie, if you really mean it, its okay!!!
xoxoxo










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